Making Friends?

I've been thinking that making friends could be one of my most difficult things to do. Making friends is hard. Maintaining the relationship is even harder.

I'm actually a kind of person that dislikes a lot of things. Seriously. When I dislike people, I tends to stay away from the person even though I never actually knew what deep inside the person. Obviously, same things happen to me as I realized some friends are actually staying away from me.

So what is it the factor inside me that people actually dislike? Or why do it's hard for me to make friends? Am I losing self confidence because of my appearance? (do I look fat? Do I smells? Do I look good?)

My boss just consult me and from his assessment he highlighted that I'm actually lacking of self confidence. I'm an insurance professional. I know my products and I know what I'm talking about. But why I chalked so many failure rate? So high it's embarrassing.

Here goes my help: my brother recommend me this book I've been reading now. It's good. The first 3 chapters already tells me where I've gone wrong. (since I've only read 3 chaps). Let me highlight the main ideas:

1. Don't criticize, condemn or complain.
I felt that I easily criticize people based on their appearance. However, I expect people to forgive me for the things I might won't forgive them. So the very first thing is I'm going to look at people as what they are. With love and passion. whatever they appear with.

2. Give honest and sincere appreciation
Well... this is hard. Honestly and sincerely hard. But I need to try, eh?

3. Arouse in the other person an eager want.
So it's not what I want... It's what the other want. I think that's why I never get what I want simply because I don't care about what other's want.

There it goes. I just read the book until the third chapter and I found out: the book is simply amazing! It's a slow food that you need to digest slowly.

This book is amazing! I'll tell you what book is it on my next posting.